Turn Your Head
When you find yourself in a difficult situation, in a negative frame of mind or an uncomfortable place, ask yourself "Can I turn my head?" Try to think of another way to view the situation, perhaps with a lens of gratitude, curiosity, or awe.
If your child is presenting a challenging behavior, remind yourself that this is how your child copes - at least for now.
By stepping back and consciously shifting perspective, you can open yourself to the potential lessons available. This practice is based on a technique by Shonda Moralis, social worker and author of Breathe Mama, Breathe.
And Dr. Ross Greene reminds us that kids do well if they can. Challenging behavior occurs when a kid is lacking the skills to handle certain demands and expectations in an adaptive way.